What happens after awareness?
ACCEPTANCE
So what if you're self aware?
You already know your habits, patterns, triggers, and you even know what events took place in childhood that shapes your reactions today.
Now what?
Being aware doesn’t change anything, so what gives?
Acceptance is the crucial next step
Usually we think that if we accept a certain flaw of ourselves, that it means we will never change. You might think that by accepting a situation as it is, means that you are not want for improvement.
Actually, the more that you don’t accept something (about yourself or someone else or a situation), the more resistance there is, thus the more energetic charge that exists; so you’ll end up trying to get as far away from that something that you don’t want, or resist it with all your might.
How draining is that! You’ll expend way more energy avoiding and doing things so as to never get close to that which you’re resisting. Not only that, you might project onto others what you don’t accept about yourself and attributing it to them, thus creating tension and destruction in relationships.
On the contrary, accepting yourself/someone else/situation as it is right now, means that you’re back to a neutral space from which you make decisions of your next steps.
🍂 Do you change the outside (other people, situations)?
🍂 Do you change the inside (yourself)?
🍂 Do you not take action?
🍂 Do you wait and see?
This is a less emotionally charged and fear-based decision making process.
More peace, more calm, more love.
Pause, deep breath, you're ok
✨ Acceptance puts you in a neutral position to make better decisions. ✨
And yet, it is harder than it sounds.
It will be more helpful if you view Acceptance as a courageous act, a radical move, of accepting things the way they are, then choosing from that neutral stance.
This is what I do with clients in our 1:1 safe containers, where we explore your resistance and blocks to a state of ease and flow.