How to make better decisions
PERSECTIVE
What causes your anxiety
You know when you feel threatened, your insights tend to shrink into a tunnel vision. And you only see a black or white picture. This severely limits your options and ideas when it comes to making decisions on important things like relationship, work, health.
Your mind takes over, and tries to protect you from the perceived danger: Could be the scare of an attack in the form of being judged, ostracized, or the threat of being rejected, abandoned, not included, and your brilliant mind also takes over to protect you from the pain of our human ultimate fear:
Being Alone.
How did this all come about?
Well, you know my answer:
Childhood.
Back then, your mind shielded you so well from the pains of growing up (frowned at for expressing anger, sadness and crying, compared with other siblings, neglected by busy working parents, feeling not good enough, etc.).
But this shield you held up for years, became part of you, and you carried it into adulthood, shielding yourself even when there was no danger.
What happened next?
Sabotaging your relationships, fear of getting close to people, distracting with alcohol, social media, partying, socializing, or drowning in your work.
And now, your body is paying the price. With chronic tension, inflammation, skin flare ups, hormone imbalances...
You don’t need your shield anymore! Put it down.
Stop, breathe, calm
When you lay down your shield again and again, you retrain your nervous system that it no longer perceives threat unnecessarily. You are then able to relax, stay calm, breathe, and see things with a wider view lens.
Apart from seeing situations and people differently, the most important shift would be to see yourself differently. From the compassionate eyes of your mature self, or from the loving eyes of God.
Of course, this isn’t a one stop solution, nor a quick fix. This takes learning, guidance, support and practice :)