Are you really healthy?
EMOTIONAL HEALTH
Set off again
Recently you’ve been triggered, and you wonder how on earth this can happen with all the self-help memes that appear on your daily feed.
But you already vented to your friends and therapist, you've already self-talked your way into positive thinking, and you went for that Reiki course/sound healing/massage/cycling 100km/HIIT…but you still feel like crap, and your relationships aren’t getting any better.
What gives?
The thing is, you haven’t yet learnt how to process your feelings.
How to start feeling better
You know we were never taught about emotional health growing up.
But times are changing, and emotional mastery will be crucial in bringing peace among humans and in establishing our children's happiness in generations to come. It's simply part of our evolution.
Here's where you can start...
1. Solid Support System
Nobody is asking you to go about it alone, plus, trying to heal childhood trauma and heartbreaks/break ups alone is asking for trouble (re-traumatization); so go ahead an engage that therapist/coach/counsellor.
2. Sit Stillness Solitude
This is the one you’ve been circumventing this whole time on your self-healing journey!
What so scary/bad/uncomfortable/boring about spending a few minutes in stillness? You’d be surprised, there’s a plethora of wisdom gems you might uncover by being with yourself, instead of trolling the internet for guidance and advice.
Simply put: All you got to do is be still, and listen.
3. Self awareness, Self knowledge, Self Acceptance
Do you really know yourself? What about the 95% unconscious drives that lie beneath your knowledge?
Get to know your ins-and-outs, understand yourself with compassion, accept yourself for the person you are right now, and trust that your desires/needs/wants/feelings will not lead you astray.
Mastering your emotions
Being emotionally healthy doesn’t mean you’re happy all the time. It means you’re aware of your emotions, and you accept them as real (not necessarily accurate though!). You have space for them, to deal with them, whether they’re ‘positive’ or ‘negative’.
Emotionally healthy people still feel stress, anger, guilt, sadness etc., but they know how to process their feelings.
I’ve learnt from my own experience that shoving down difficult feelings only results in them coming back 10 fold, with a vengeance. Learning to deal with emotions in real-time has reduced my stress tremendously and transformed my relationships, and I am ever eager to teach this to my clients!