Do you know what you want?
BEING REAL
Being authentic means to be yourself
But what if you have been living up to every one else’s standards since young and lost who you really are inside?
That was me! I didn’t even choose my own uni course; Hello, accounting, me?
I even obediently went along into the auditing firms to do my internships, and marched right into the banks imagining that if I just understood these financial products then I would be sorted, safe, happy.
Wrong! I felt more and more frustrated with the people I was working alongside, tired from my long days of staring at what was to me meaningless numbers, and resentful to the universe for putting me in this stuck spot.
There must be more to life.
More fulfillment, excitement, passion, meaning, more joy.
But, where to start?
Being real starts here...
I'll share with you a brief overview of the first few steps, and I shall say that implementing these is the actual work which requires guidance, support and practise.
Slowing down - Awareness
Pause, observe, breathe
Feeling your body – Acceptance
Sensations, tightness, heaviness, anxiousness, lethargy, excitement
Understanding yourself – Acknowledge
What in your life's history has brought you to this point?
Loving yourself – Compassion
Go easy on yourself, softness, tenderness, patience, gentleness as how you'd treat someone you love dearly.
Are you being honest with yourself
It takes time. In fact, the practice of being authentic never really ends. It just takes less conscious effort after getting over the initial humps of your own resistance. Then it becomes second nature, your nature, you.
I am still challenged daily to stay true to myself, in parenting and especially in relationships. I don’t ‘succeed’ all the time, nor do I expect myself to follow a linear path of progress. Flow, flow with grace.
Am I being honest with myself –
is a question to be asked moment to moment, at every juncture, at every decision big or small.
As much as you’d like an aha-moment, a sentence to inspire you, yet there’s no quick fix, single-solution to living differently from what you’ve been doing for the past 20+ years.
Get this, you're not going for a new or improved version of you, but a returning to your original design.
Return to your uniqueness.
You ready to start?